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		<title>More Support for Online Giving</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[As consumers in the United States shift increasingly to online banking and bill payment, their electronic financial habits are spilling over into the church.
A recent study by LifeWay Research found that 14 percent of all American Protestant churches offer online giving.
The survey of 1,003 Protestant congregations was conducted in September 2010 and sponsored by LifeWay’s Digital Church partner ServiceU. It found that large churches are most likely to offer online giving and that for the most part, electronic tithes and offerings are a recent development.
A majority (55 percent) of churches ...


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As consumers in the United States shift increasingly to online banking and bill payment, their electronic financial habits are spilling over into the church.</p>
<p>A recent study by LifeWay Research found that 14 percent of all American Protestant churches offer online giving.</p>
<p>The survey of 1,003 Protestant congregations was conducted in September 2010 and sponsored by LifeWay’s Digital Church partner ServiceU. It found that large churches are most likely to offer online giving and that for the most part, electronic tithes and offerings are a recent development.</p>
<p>A majority (55 percent) of churches with average worship attendance of 500 or more offer online giving, along with 26 percent of congregations with attendance of 200 to 499. In contrast, just 9 percent of churches with 100 to 199 attendees offer online giving, as do 7 percent of churches with 50 to 99 attendees and 4 percent with less than 50 attendees.</p>
<p>Two-thirds (66 percent) of churches with online giving have offered it for two years or less. That includes 26 percent who have offered it for about two years, 24 percent who have offered it for less than one year and 16 percent who have offered it for about one year.</p>
<p>Nine percent of churches offering online giving have offered it for about three years, 4 percent for about four years and 13 percent for more than four years.</p>
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		<title>Scriptures to Comfort the Mourner</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:29:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Psalm 9:9
The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.
Psalm 18:2
The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the hornof my salvation, my stronghold.
Psalm 22:24
For he has not despised or disdained the suffering of the afflicted one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry for help.
Psalm 23
The LORD is my shepherd,
I shall not be in want.
He makes me lie down in ...


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Psalm 9:9<br />
The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.</p>
<p>Psalm 18:2<br />
The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the hornof my salvation, my stronghold.</p>
<p>Psalm 22:24<br />
For he has not despised or disdained the suffering of the afflicted one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry for help.</p>
<p>Psalm 23<br />
The LORD is my shepherd,<br />
I shall not be in want.<br />
He makes me lie down in green pastures,<br />
he leads me beside quiet waters,<br />
He restores my soul.<br />
He guides me in paths of righteousness<br />
for his name&#8217;s sake.<br />
Even though I walk<br />
through the valley of the shadow of death,<br />
I will fear no evil,<br />
for you are with me;<br />
your rod and your staff,<br />
they comfort me.<br />
You prepare a table before me<br />
in the presence of my enemies.<br />
You anoint my head with oil;<br />
my cup overflows.<br />
Surely goodness and love will follow me<br />
all the days of my life,<br />
and I will dwell in the house of the LORD<br />
forever.</p>
<p>Psalm 27:4-5<br />
One thing I ask of the LORD, this is what I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple. For in the day of trouble he will keep me safe in his dwelling; he will hide me in the shelter of his tabernacle and set me high upon a rock.</p>
<p>Psalm 30:5<br />
Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.</p>
<p>Psalm 34:18<br />
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit</p>
<p>Psalm 37:39<br />
The salvation of the righteous comes from the LORD; he is their stronghold in time of trouble</p>
<p>Psalm 46:1-2<br />
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea.</p>
<p>Psalm 48:14<br />
For this God is our God for ever and ever; he will be our guide even to the end.</p>
<p>Psalm 55:22<br />
Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you;he will never let the righteous fall.</p>
<p>Psalm 71:20-21<br />
Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up. You will increase my honor and comfort me once again.</p>
<p>Psalm 73:26<br />
My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.</p>
<p>Psalm 138:7<br />
Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life; you stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes, with your right hand you save me.</p>
<p>Proverbs 14:32<br />
When calamity comes, the wicked are brought down, but even in death the righteous have a refuge.</p>
<p>Isaiah 25:8<br />
He will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove the disgrace of his people from all the earth. The LORD has spoken.</p>
<p>Isaiah 40:18-31<br />
Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.</p>
<p>Isaiah 49:14-16<br />
But Zion said, &#8220;The LORD has forsaken me, the Lord has forgotten me.&#8221; &#8220;Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.&#8221;</p>
<p>Isaiah 51:3<br />
The LORD will surely comfort Zion<br />
and will look with compassion on all her ruins;<br />
he will make her deserts like Eden,<br />
her wastelands like the garden of the LORD.<br />
Joy and gladness will be found in her,<br />
thanksgiving and the sound of singing.</p>
<p>Isaiah 54:10<br />
&#8220;Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,&#8221; says the LORD, who has compassion on you.</p>
<p>Isaiah 66:12-14<br />
For this is what the LORD says:<br />
&#8220;I will extend peace to her like a river,<br />
and the wealth of nations like a flooding stream;<br />
you will nurse and be carried on her arm<br />
and dandled on her knees.<br />
As a mother comforts her child,<br />
so will I comfort you;<br />
and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.&#8221;<br />
When you see this, your heart will rejoice<br />
and you will flourish like grass;<br />
the hand of the LORD will be made known to his servants,<br />
but his fury will be shown to his foes.</p>
<p>Lamentations 3:31-33<br />
For men are not cast off by the Lord forever.Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love.For he does not willingly bring affliction or grief to the children of men.</p>
<p>Hosea 13:14<br />
&#8220;I will ransom them from the power of the grave [a] ; I will redeem them from death. Where, O death, are your plagues? Where, O grave, is your destruction?</p>
<p>Nahum 1:7<br />
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him,</p>
<p>Matthew 5:4<br />
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.</p>
<p>Matthew 6:19-34<br />
I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? &#8220;And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labour or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendour was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, &#8220;What shall we eat?&#8221; or &#8220;What shall we drink?&#8221; or &#8220;What shall we wear?&#8221; For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.</p>
<p>Matthew 11:25-30<br />
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.</p>
<p>John 6:39-40<br />
And this is the will of him who sent me, that I shall lose none of all that he has given me, but raise them up at the last day. For my Father&#8217;s will is that everyone who looks to the Son and believes in him shall have eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day.</p>
<p>John 14:1-4<br />
Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God[; trust also in me. In my Father&#8217;s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going.</p>
<p>John 14:27<br />
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you asthe world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.</p>
<p>Romans 8:14,15<br />
&#8230; because those who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, &#8220;Abba, Father.&#8221;</p>
<p>Romans 8:31-39<br />
What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. Who is he that condemns? Christ Jesus, who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written: &#8221; For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.&#8221; No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.</p>
<p>1 Corinthians 15:52-57<br />
In a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality. When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: &#8220;Death has been swallowed up in victory.&#8221; &#8220;Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?&#8221;The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.</p>
<p>2 Corinthians 1:3-5<br />
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. 5For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows.</p>
<p>2 Corinthians 4:13-16<br />
It is written: &#8220;I believed; therefore I have spoken.&#8221; With that same spirit of faith we also believe and therefore speak, because we know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead will also raise us with Jesus and present us with you in his presence. All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God. Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.</p>
<p>2 Corinthians 12:9-10<br />
But he said to me, &#8220;My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.&#8221; Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ&#8217;s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ&#8217;s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.</p>
<p>1 Thessalonians 4:13<br />
Brothers, we do not want you to be ignorant about those who fall asleep, or to grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope.</p>
<p>Philippians 4:6<br />
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God</p>
<p>Hebrews 2:14-15<br />
Since the children have flesh and blood, he too shared in their humanity so that by his death he might destroy him who holds the power of death — that is, the devil — and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death.</p>
<p>Hebrews 4:14-16<br />
Seeing then that we have a great High Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.</p>
<p>1 Peter 1:3-9<br />
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His abundant mercy has begotten us again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance incorruptible and undefiled and that does not fade away, reserved in heaven for you, who are kept by the power of God through faith for salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while, if need be, you have been grieved by various trials, that the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ, whom having not seen you love. Though now you do not see Him, yet believing, you rejoice with joy inexpressible and full of glory, receiving the end of your faith the salvation of your souls.</p>
<p>1 Peter 5:6-7<br />
Humble yourselves, therefore, under God&#8217;s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.</p>
<p>Revelation 7:15-17<br />
And he said, &#8220;These are they who have come out of the great tribulation; they have washed their robes and made them white in the blood of the Lamb. Therefore, &#8220;they are before the throne of God and serve him day and night in his temple; and he who sits on the throne will spread his tent over them. Never again will they hunger; never again will they thirst. The sun will not beat upon them, nor any scorching heat. For the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their shepherd; he will lead them to springs of living water. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes.&#8221;</p>
<p>Revelation 21:4<br />
He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.&#8221;</p>


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		<title>How To Have Hard Conversations With Your Leaders</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[In any relationship, there comes a time where it’s necessary to say things which are difficult to keep the relationship strong and make it better. This is also true in a healthy team environment.
For me personally, that often involves having a hard and challenging conversation with a team member…someone I love being on the team, but know they need correction in an area that is affecting the team. These are always discussions I’d rather not have, but I know are necessary for the continued health of the relationship, the team, ...


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In any relationship, there comes a time where it’s necessary to say things which are difficult to keep the relationship strong and make it better. This is also true in a healthy team environment.</p>
<p>For me personally, that often involves having a hard and challenging conversation with a team member…someone I love being on the team, but know they need correction in an area that is affecting the team. These are always discussions I’d rather not have, but I know are necessary for the continued health of the relationship, the team, and the individual.</p>
<p>Over the years, I have had many of these issues which required “tough love” to address them, but dealing with problems like this have included me having to <strong>say things such as</strong>:</p>
<ul>
<li>You’re too controlling as a leader…</li>
<li>You can be perceived as a jerk to people…</li>
<li>Your personal life is dragging down the team…</li>
<li>You have body odor…</li>
<li>You’re making unwise decisions…</li>
<li>You are non-responsive…</li>
<li>You don’t know how to take constructive criticism…</li>
<li>You are moving too fast…</li>
<li>You are moving too slow…</li>
<li>You are uncooperative…</li>
</ul>
<p>I should note that not all of these have been said with my current team…for example, to my knowledge no one on my team has body odor…thankfully, but through my years in leadership, I have had to say each one of these statements to someone I was supposed to be leading. Those conversations, as awkward and uncomfortable as they were, always proved to be good for the team and the team member. There have been times when someone needed to have similar “tough love” conversations with me and those discussions always made me better, as difficult as they were to receive at the time.</p>
<p>I have learned<strong> 5 principles for dealing with those times</strong> as a leader:</p>
<p><strong>Handle as quickly as possible </strong>- If the problem is clear in your mind (and usually everyone else’s mind), and you’ve witnessed the problem long enough to know it’s a pattern, don’t delay long in addressing the issue.</p>
<p><strong>Be honest </strong>- This is not the time to shift blame, make excuses or dance around the issue.</p>
<p><strong>Be kind and helpful </strong>- You may read my post <a href="http://www.ronedmondson.com/2011/03/5-ways-to-rebuke-a-friend.html">5 Ways to Rebuke a Friend</a>. Although this post deals more with a subordinate than simply with a friend, the previous post suggestions are helpful here also. Your end goal should be to make the team member and the team better after the conversation.</p>
<p><strong>Have a two-way conversation</strong> – You should be willing to listen as much as you speak. You may not have all the facts exactly right…or you may have…but give the person a chance to respond to the criticism you are addressing. This also means you should have a two-way conversation, and not a multiple party conversation. You should address the issue with the person you have a problem with, not with others on the team behind his or her back.</p>
<p><strong>Move forward after the conversation</strong> – The person being corrected should leave with your assurance that you are moving forward, and, provided improvements are made, do not plan to hold the issue against him or her. It will be important he or she sees you responding likewise.</p>
<p><strong>Know when enough is enough</strong> – You shouldn’t have to have these type conversations too frequently. Talk becomes cheap if there’s no backing to what’s agreed upon. If there seems to be no improvement over time, harder decisions or more intensive help may be needed. If you have done the other steps here, there is a time when tough love says “that’s enough…no more”.</p>
<p>One of the most difficult times for me as a leader is addressing issues like this with a team member I genuinely care about, but I know it’s one of my roles as a leader to address these most difficult issues.</p>
<p>(Written by Ron Edmondson)</p>


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		<title>Original Commission and the Great Commission: a Parallel</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Nov 2010 14:48:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[From Jason Dulle&#8216;s blog:
â€œSo God created man in his own imageâ€¦.Â  And God said to them, â€˜Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.â€™â€ (Genesis 1:27a, 28)
 
â€œAnd Jesus came and said to them, â€˜All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19Â Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the ...


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>From <a href="theosophical.wordpress.com/">Jason Dulle</a>&#8216;s blog:</p>
<p><em>â€œSo God created man in his own imageâ€¦.Â  And God said to them, â€˜Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.â€™â€ (Genesis 1:27a, 28)</em></p>
<p><em> </em></p>
<p><em>â€œAnd Jesus came and said to them, â€˜All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19Â Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20Â teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.â€™â€ (Matthew 28:18-20)</em></p>
<p>In the beginning of creation, God commissioned humanity to multiply themselves in number (through sex), and fill the earth.Â  Similarly, in the beginning of the new age of the Spirit, Jesus commissions the disciples to multiply themselves in number (through evangelism and discipleship) throughout the earth.Â  Whereas the first commission was aimed at proliferating human life globally, the new commission was aimed at proliferating eternal life globally.Â  The sons of Adam had filled the earth, but a new commission was needed to fill the earth with the sons of God.</p>


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		<title>Court Upholds Expulsion of Counseling Student Who Opposes Homosexuality</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Jul 2010 14:04:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[A federal judge has ruled in favor of a public university that removed a Christian student from its graduate program in school counseling over her belief that homosexuality is morally wrong. Monday&#8217;s ruling, according to Julea Ward&#8217;s attorneys, could result in Christian students across the country being expelled from public university for similar views.
â€œItâ€™s a very dangerous precedent,â€ Jeremy Tedesco, legal counsel for the conservative Alliance Defense Fund, told FOX News Radio. â€œThe ruling doesnâ€™t say that explicitly, but thatâ€™s what is going to happen.â€
U.S. District Judge George Caram Steeh ...


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A federal judge has ruled in favor of a public university that removed a Christian student from its graduate program in school counseling over her belief that homosexuality is morally wrong. Monday&#8217;s ruling, according to Julea Ward&#8217;s attorneys, could result in Christian students across the country being expelled from public university for similar views.</p>
<p>â€œItâ€™s a very dangerous precedent,â€ Jeremy Tedesco, legal counsel for the conservative Alliance Defense Fund, told FOX News Radio. â€œThe ruling doesnâ€™t say that explicitly, but thatâ€™s what is going to happen.â€</p>
<p>U.S. District Judge George Caram Steeh dismissed Wardâ€™s lawsuit against Eastern Michigan University. She was removed from the schoolâ€™s counseling program last year because she refused to counsel homosexual clients.</p>
<p>The university contended she violated school policy and the American Counseling Association code of ethics.</p>
<p>â€œChristian students shouldnâ€™t be expelled for holding to and abiding by their beliefs,â€ said ADF senior counsel David French. â€œTo reach its decision, the court had to do something thatâ€™s never been done in federal court: uphold an extremely broad and vague university speech code.â€</p>
<p>Eastern Michigan University hailed the decision.</p>
<p>â€œWe are pleased that the court has upheld our position in this matter,â€ EMU spokesman Walter Kraft said in a written statement. â€œJulea Ward was not discriminated against because of her religion. To the contrary, Eastern Michigan is deeply committed to the education of our students and welcomes individuals from diverse backgrounds into our community.â€</p>
<p>In his 48-page opinion, Judge Steeh said the university had a rational basis for adopting the ACA Code of Ethics.</p>
<p>â€œFurthermore, the university had a rational basis for requiring students to counsel clients without imposing their personal values,â€ he wrote in a portion of his ruling posted by The Detroit News. â€œIn the case of Ms. Ward, the university determined that she would never change her behavior and would consistently refuse to counsel clients on matters with which she was personally opposed due to her religious beliefs â€“ including homosexual relationships.â€</p>
<p>Wardâ€™s attorneys claim the university told her she would only be allowed to remain in the program if she went through a â€œremediationâ€ program so that she could â€œsee the error of her waysâ€ and change her belief system about homosexuality.</p>
<p>The case is similar to a lawsuit the ADF filed against Augusta State University in Georgia. Counseling student Jennifer Keeton was allegedly told to stop sharing her Christian beliefs in order to graduate.</p>
<p>Keeton&#8217;s lawsuit alleged that she was told to undergo a reeducation program and attend â€œdiversity sensitivity training.â€</p>
<p>University officials declined to comment on specifics of the lawsuit but released a statement to FOX News that said Augusta State does not discriminate on the basis of studentsâ€™ moral, religious, political or personal beliefs.</p>
<p>Tedesco said both cases should be a warning to Christians attending public colleges and universities.</p>
<p>â€œPublic universities are imposing the ideological stances of private groups on their students,â€ he said. â€œIf you donâ€™t comply, you will be kicked out. Itâ€™s scary stuff and itâ€™s not a difficult thing to see whatâ€™s coming down the pike.â€</p>
<p>The Alliance Defense Fund told FOX News it will appeal the ruling.</p>
<p>(Full article here <a href="http://www.foxnews.com/us/2010/07/28/court-university-expel-student-opposes-homosexuality/">http://www.foxnews.com/us/2010/07/28/court-university-expel-student-opposes-homosexuality/</a>)</p>


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